I found Wild Woman Sisterhood about a year ago and have loved just about everything they post. I am only saddened by the negativity of the Facebook comments they seem to get. I’m not sure if it’s social media itself or the people that tend to follow, but many commenters seem so self-centered, immature, and negative. Then again, maybe it’s just the written word that causes the confusion. It’s hard to write one or two lines and get a solid meaning across.
When I see a post on any page that I can’t get behind or doesn’t apply to me, I just keep scrolling. I’m sure it’s out in the universe for someone. That someone isn’t me at the moment. There are times when I do make a comment when I disagree, but it’s usually because I know the person that posted it personally. I’m talking to them directly, just as if they had said something over coffee. I don’t agree and I want to talk about that. But I’d never do that to a stranger and I especially wouldn’t do it on a social media post.
Maybe I just use it differently.
They posted something beautiful this morning and I felt compelled to add my own ideas to it. I kept thinking about it all morning. I even talked about it with my son as we went hiking through the desert.
My morning routine was broken up today because he wanted to go hiking and, since it’s warming up out here in the desert, it couldn’t wait until the afternoon. After a lunch, a rest, and the dishes, I sat down to write, and the idea was still swimming around in my heart.
Here’s the quote.
And this was my comment.
Such a beautiful sentiment!
A caged bird is “loved” too. But the best love is the kind that supports freely, the kind that makes you feel like you can do anything, including walking away.
That kind of love is precious.
I’m bound to my love, not because I feel like I have to stay but because I want to, because here, with my partner’s love, is where I grow and thrive best!
And then, when someone insisted that a caged bird is not really loved at all…
The person who caged it does believe they love it. They love it as an object to be taken care of like a book, pen, or chair.
Humans should never be loved that way, but we often treat each other as objects instead of beings. That doesn’t mean we don’t love each other. It means we haven’t grown enough to know the difference yet.
It takes a strong person to love another human as a separate being and not an object.
Lovers that treat their partners as objects to be kept, get scared and angry when their love isn’t returned or if their partner changes their mind.
Parents treat their children as pets, something to be controlled and cared for, instead of distinct individuals with their own wants, needs, and agendas.
And sometimes we treat our friends that way when we insist that they spend time with us and only us, as if they aren’t living their own life when we aren’t around.
Loving someone and letting them go, allowing them the space to be free, to say no to us, to walk away, is terrifying.
What if they find someone better? If you loved them, you’d want them to if they could.
What if they grow away from me? If you loved them, you’d want them to be the best they can be with or without you.
What if? Don’t ruin the time you have with your loved ones worrying about the future. Love them completely right now, so if the worst happens, you have all those beautiful memories to look back on.
If you LOVE someone, something, set it free. If it doesn’t come back…
Hunt it down! That’s what my Grandpa used to laugh and say! But we all know that just doesn’t work. The caged bird is safe and secure, but it will never fulfill its true reason for being on this earth.
The caged human is the same. She will never reach her own potential. He will never be who he was truly meant to be.
Love them but do not cage them. Support them, share with them, help them, but set them free and watch what they become.