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Tony Robbins, Aimlessness, and Free Speech

Yes, I finished reading The Mayfair Bookshop by Eliza Knight this morning, I’m too mentally and physically exhausted to write about today, as I was once again out galivanting around Southern California yesterday. Instead, I shall leave you with a quick Podcast Roundup!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty: Tony Robbins on: Breaking Negative Thinking & Unlock the Unlimited Potential of Your Mind

I’m not a Tony Robbins fan, but I do commonly find that even people I’m not in love with have wisdom to share. This one, though…I’m not sure if it was because my back and shoulder were hurting so much on the drive (I somehow hurt myself (hoeing, lol) pulling weeds last weekend), but the whole conversation was exhausting. I guess I’m not that much of a “driven” kind of person. All I wanted to do was yell at them to take a freakin’ breather.

Yeah, I was grumpy. But I did get a few little gems out of it.

We humans tend not experience life directly and in all it’s glory. We experience what we focus on. And we usually look for what’s missing instead of what we already have.

Also, humans tend to unconsciously mirror each other. What everyone else if feeling and projecting, so shall we. Pay attention to your surroundings, the people you interact with, the books you read, the tv/news you watch.

He also mentioned some ideas from The 4th Turning by William Strauss, which I thought I’d read in the past, but it’s not on my shelf, so maybe I heard of it or read about it somewhere else. I think it may be a book recommended by Oliver DeMille and his Leadership Education model. I will be adding it back to my TBR list.

Secular Buddhism: Aimlessness

The old “You’re not lost if you have nowhere you are supposed to be” thing. Sounds crazy to our “go get ‘em” culture, but it resonates with me. Aimlessness is one of the Three Doors of Liberation. It means letting go of where you think you should be and embracing where you are.

Hmm…suddenly I realized that this is related to the previous podcast.

Conversations With Coleman: The History of Free Speech with Jacob Mchangama

Book: Free Speech: A History from Socrates to Social Media by Jacob Mchangama

I love the people that Coleman has on his show and this one really got me going, even on the long, later than I had expected, drive home from my adventures last night. Not only did I get to add another great book to my TBR list, I found another podcast to listen to. Clear and Present Danger is all about the principles of free speech as they apply today, where they came from, and how they evolved.

There was a lot of great stuff to think about in this episode, and when I read the book, you can bet I’ll be sharing THAT information with you here. Today just I’ll share my two favorite takeaways.

Censorship only brings more attention to words and ideas you don’t agree with. In most cases, the best thing you can do when you hear things you don’t agree with is simply scroll on by, don’t buy the book, watch the video, whatever. Saying “I’m certainly NOT going to listen to Joe Rogan on Spotify because he’s a bad man!” only makes me (and millions of other people) go find out who that is and what he said that upset people, and the subscribe to his channel because we’re curious what else he has to say. Buy banned books! Watch banned movies! Read, study, and decide for yourself what is right and wrong!

And some wise advice from the Stoics about social media. Detach a bit. Use it if you want to. It doesn’t matter what someone else says. That made me smile. I love sharing what I’m doing and finding in the world through social media, Facebook and Instagram, (that’s an invite to follow me) but negative feedback is hard on my insecure little heart. And reading other people’s negativity…well, remember what Tony Robbins said about humans unconsciously mirroring each other?

I’m doing what the Stoics teach; being me, loud and proud, and taking a step back from other people’s feedback. Like it or not, I’m here to stay.

And there you are! Only three podcasts and I found so much. Let me know in the comments if you decide to chase any of these links, or if you’ve read or heard any of the podcasts and authors. I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Podcast Round-Up # 1: A Weekly Podcast Review

It’s a lucky day for the whole world! I’ve been inspired to start a new weekly podcast review. Podcast Round-up is here! (dances across the floor) A place to post a short review of the podcasts I listened to this week. Life is not JUST about reading books, you know. Ok, maybe it is, but there has to be some variety, right? I mean, we can’t have tacos every day, can we? Wait…never mind. Podcasts!

Drive time is podcast time! 
The best time to add to my weekly podcast review.
Photo by Chenyu Guan on Unsplash

Do you listen to podcasts? I freakin’ love ‘em! I’ve always been a fan of talk radio, especially when I was in college driving from school to my boyfriend’s house and then in my 20’s driving from Woodland Hills to and back from Disneyland every day for work. I’ve always been a fan of driving and, unlike most people, I’m not a big music lover. But I do love talk and podcasts are a great way for me to listen in on some great conversations between intelligent and articulate people while I drive the California freeways. Traffic means nothing to me!


Practicing Human – Meditation vs Taking Action

These are great five-to-ten-minute bits that add to my playlist between longer podcasts and I have yet to regret listening to them. This one led me to this gem: the point of meditation is to learn to pause, focus, and direct action. Our brains run a mile a minute and if we chase every thought, we get very little done. An action I’m taking directly from this episode is remembering to pause before I react to anything. Social media post, text, comment, anything, take a moment to think, maybe write out a response to myself but then wait a while to send it out into the world.

Dream Big Podcast with Bog Goff – Jon Acuff – Changing Soundtracks

For coming from a Christian perspective, this isn’t a bad podcast. This the second episode I’ve listened to. The big takeaway this time: You’re not stuck. You’re afraid. What’s the fear? For me, it’s criticism. I’m afraid to do or say what I want because I don’t handle criticism well.

The Writer Files – How to Research Historical Fiction with Award-Winning Author Patrick Hicks

“Whatever scares you to write… that’s what you should be writing.” – Patrick Hicks

Dammit.

I always love listening to this guy’s perspective when talking to different authors. I’m not always a fan of the author or their work, but their thoughts on the process are always inspiring. This one was not disappointing.

Freakanomics Radio – 456. How to Fix the Hot Mess of U.S. Healthcare

From this I’ve added “The Price We Pay: What Broke American Healthcare – And How to Fix it” by Marty Makary to my TBR list.

The Minimalists – 283 | Sentimental Stuff

This one wasn’t much to crow about today.

The Jordan B Peterson Podcast – Matthew McConaughey

I’m not a fan of celebrity interviews but Jordan Peterson was interviewing so I thought it would be worth listening to. My reaction? Meh. I wasn’t impressed. He seemed to be very impressed with McConaughey’s memoir, Greenlights, but I’m not inspired to read it.


There it is! My first weekly podcast review. It seems like a lot of listening time, but they were shorties this week mostly. I’m always looking for new and interesting podcasts, so let me know your favorites in the comments! Expand my listening repertoire, I dare you!

The next episode came a little later than expected, but it’s here now and it hopes it’ll come around again soon!

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Using Words: Is the Art of Communication Lost?

The art of communication and the legend of the Tower of Babel quote on a desert background.

“…the world is faced in fact with the problems mythologically represented in the Bible legend of the builders of the Tower of Babel, when the Lord so confused men’s tongues that they had to abandon the building of their secular city and scatter…
Only there is no room today into which we might scatter away from each other; and just there, of course, is the rub and special problem of our age.”

Myths to Live By” by Joseph Campbell

And, again, this was written fifty years ago, before the 24-hour news cycle, before the internet, before social media.

Is the art of communication lost?

Time and time again I wonder, with all the new ways to communicate, why do we still not understand each other? Lately it feels as though we aren’t even trying.

Words are tricky things. They don’t always mean the same thing to everyone. Even if we’re both speaking English, we come from different backgrounds, different context gives words different meanings. Throw in a translation from a different language, some emotional words, a few cultural references, and you have a mess.

Public discourse as a communication tool?

The internet is proving to be no place to communicate with other humans, especially in an open forum with a large group of strangers. You may as well stand on the floor of New York Stock Exchange and start asking questions.

Communication isn’t about simply speaking our minds, telling our side of the story, writing out our version of events, our wants and needs. It’s more about listening and asking questions. With so many people making noise, it’s hard to hear what’s being said, even when we get a chance to ask.

What about personal communication?

Admittedly, I’ve never been a good listener. I forget to ask questions. When I do remember, I’m often an impatient listener. I’m not hearing what’s being said and thinking about it, I’m listening for words that trigger my own thoughts and remembrances. I rarely walk away from a conversation knowing more about people than that they seemed to like my stories or not.

I want to do better. Something I’m currently reading is helping me with one simple idea: have compassion. Walking through this world remembering that everyone I see is a human being with the same basic wants and needs as I do: to be seen and heard.

We can’t work together until we can communicate effectively. And we can’t communicate effectively until we can have compassion for the people around us. That communication starts with one person stopping to listen, ask questions, and hear the human behind the words.


Want to read this book? You can get it on Amazon HERE.
Read more of my thoughts about quotes from this book:
Are Our Cultural Differences Becoming Less Important?
Women Are Equal in Nature and Need as Men, Not the “Same As”

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